Author : Haseena Kabeer (DTM)

Assistant Professor (English)

Vivekananda Global University, Jaipur


We as human beings never like getting rejected or being unsuccessful. Thus, most of us avoid the fact that at some point of time, we got rejected certainly. The key to overcome rejection is to understand that rejection is a normal part of the growth process. As clever as human beings are, we rely on social groups for survival. We are evolved to live in cooperative societies, and for most of human history we depended on those groups for our lives. Like hunger or thirst, our need for acceptance emerged as a mechanism for survival.

Rejection hurts. But it's impossible to avoid it altogether. In fact, you don't want to: People who become too afraid of rejection might hold back from going after something they want. The only thing that you can do when faced with such circumstances is learn why the setbacks occurred and work to ensure that they never happen again. Going through difficult challenges and getting deep insight on the situation will help you always become a better person. Life provides you ample of opportunities to understand the fact that rejections or denials are a part of human life. You cannot avoid but certainly can try to overcome it.

Rejection makes us stronger. We change the way we see things, and we can use it to change our lives. People do not grow stronger when everything is working for them, we change and we grow when something is not going well. When we see rejection as an opportunity, we can learn and be a better version of ourselves.Express your disenchantment in not getting the job but try to state your appreciation for the opportunity to learn about the organization and meet the people working there. Recap your continued interest in working in their organization. Request that they get in touch with you for the next time a job is opened.

Another example is children who are vulnerable, the effect on a child who is rejected by one parent or both can be devastating. The result is often low self-esteem, constant self-doubt, and hopelessness. Often the impact lasts well into adulthood.

According to various researchers who have dig deeper into the roots of rejection, found surprising evidence that the pain of being barred is not so different from the pain of physical injury. Rejection also has serious implications for an individual’s psychological state and for society in general. Social rejection can influence sentiment, cognition and even physical health. 

The best example to turn rejection into success is Walt Disney who was fired from the one of his first animation jobs at Kansas City Star in 1919, and “lacked imagination and had no good ideas” was the reason got him fired by his editor. Things didn’t get smoother for him after that, Disney started an animation studio, Laugh-O-Gram Studio, however it went bankruptcy in 1923 before practically any of his cartoons were released.

He never gave up on his dream, Disney moved to Hollywood, after that Disney and his brother Roy formed the Disney Brothers Studio which later became The Walt Disney Company, which became one of the best-known motion-picture production companies in the world.

Another example is Elvis Presley’, one of the most influential singers all time. His influence was enormously important to both rock and country music, but this iconic singer also was rejected early in his career.

In 1954, Elvis took his style of music to the Nashville’s Grand Ole Opry, but far from revolutionizing the music world with his hip-shaking performance and dynamic new sound. After the performance at Grand Ole Opry, The concert hall manager told him that he should be better off driving trucks.Having sold over 500 million records worldwide, Presley is recognized as the best-selling solo music artist of all time by Guinness World Records. He was commercially successful in many genres, including pop, country, R&B, adult contemporary, and gospel. Presley won three Grammy Awards, received the Grammy Lifetime Achievement Award at age thirty six, and has been inducted into multiple music halls of fame. He holds several records, including the most RIAA certified gold and platinum albums, the most albums charted on the Billboard 200, the most number-one albums by a solo artist on the UK Albums Chart.Presley was posthumously awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom by Donald Trump.

A rejection is a chance to consider if there are things we can work on. It's OK to think about whether there's room for improvement or if your goals were higher than your skills. If your skills weren't strong enough this time, maybe you need to work on your game, your studies, your interview technique, or whatever it takes to improve your chances of getting accepted next time. Use the rejection as an opportunity for self-improvement.

Sometimes a rejection is a harsh reality check. But if you approach it right, it could help bump you in a track that turns out to be the wonderful fit for your talents, individuality, and all the really great things that make you who you are. Thus, the most powerful motivation is rejection itself since it is a necessary step in the hunt of triumph. (The author has his own study and views)